First time sex with someone new is exciting and a little nerve racking. You don't know what they like yet and they don't know you. A bit of talking beforehand turns awkward into hot.
- How hard is it
- Nervous, not hard
- Best for
- New couples
- You need
- Condoms
- Even better with
- A sense of humour
01When is the right time
There's no rule. The right time is when you both want to and both feel comfortable. First date or tenth, it's your call. Nobody owes anybody sex.
02Before you get naked
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Talk about protection
Agree on condoms and say when you were last tested.
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2
Mention what you like
One or two things is enough. It makes them feel confident.
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3
Mention limits
Say anything you don't want. It's easier before than during.
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4
Bring supplies
Carry condoms and lube so nothing breaks the mood.
03Make the first time good
- Go slowly. Kiss for longer than you think you should.
- Pay attention to their breathing and sounds.
- Ask simple questions. "Do you like this?"
- Laugh if something goes wrong. It always does.
- Don't aim for perfect. Aim for fun.
04Easy positions for a first time
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Missionary
You can see each other and kiss. See missionary.
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Side by side
Slow and equal. See side by side.
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Her on top
She sets the pace.
05Afterwards
Stay a while. Cuddle, talk, say what you enjoyed. And if you're sleeping with someone new, read safe sex and STI testing.
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