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Have the best sex of your life.

Want To Care shows you how to turn each other on, last longer and come harder. Hot positions, mind blowing oral, filthy dirty talk and everything else you've been dying to try, all in plain words.

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Pick what turns you on. Every topic is packed with moves you can try tonight, alone or together.

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Straight answers

The questions people are too shy to ask.

Nothing here is embarrassing. If you have wondered about it, so have thousands of others.

Yes, completely. Most women need direct touch on the clitoris to get there, and penetration alone usually doesn't give it. Adding a hand, a toy or a different angle isn't cheating. That's just how a lot of bodies work.

Start with what you already like, then ask for one thing, such as "I love it when you do this, and I'd like to try that." Choose a relaxed moment away from the bedroom, and keep it about what feels good to you, not what they're doing wrong.

This is one of the most common things couples deal with, and it rarely means something is broken. Talk about what each of you needs to get in the mood, agree on touch that doesn't have to lead to sex, and make time for each other instead of waiting for the right moment.

Treat it as curiosity, not a complaint. Share an article or say "I read about this and it made me think of us", then ask what they think. Agree that either of you can say no or stop at any point, and start with the mildest version of the idea.

Yes. A toy does not replace a partner. It is one more way to feel good, alone or together. Many couples find that choosing one together and using it during sex takes the pressure off and makes things more playful.

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Start here

Get good in bed, one move at a time.

A few short reads, best taken in order. By the last one you'll know exactly how to drive each other wild.

  1. 01 Know what turns you on Touch yourself, learn your hot spots, and find out what makes you come.
  2. 02 Say it out loud Tell them what you want, and ask what they're dying to try.
  3. 03 Tease before you please Kissing, touching and oral that gets you both aching for more.
  4. 04 Try something naughty New positions, toys and fantasies you've only thought about.
Begin with step one

Why we are here

Good advice about sex is strangely hard to find.

Most of what's out there is either cold and clinical or just crude. We wanted something in between. Kind, clear and useful, written for real couples and for anyone who wants to know more.

So we write what we wish someone had told us. No shame, no lectures, and nothing you can't try at your own pace.

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