Being tied up, or doing the tying, is one of the most common fantasies there is. Take away someone's hands or sight and every touch feels stronger. Light bondage is easy and safe when you follow a few rules.
- How hard is it
- Easy with care
- Best for
- Trust and teasing
- You need
- A scarf or cuffs
- Even better with
- A blindfold
01Why it feels so good
Giving up control lets you stop thinking and feel. Taking control lets you tease as slowly as you like. With a blindfold on, your partner can't see what's coming, so every kiss and stroke is a surprise.
02Before you start
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1
Talk first
Agree what you both want to try and what's off limits.
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2
Pick a safeword
Choose a word that means stop right now. Read safewords and how to use them.
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3
Choose soft ties
Use a silk scarf, soft cuffs or a dressing gown belt. No thin cord, no metal handcuffs.
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4
Keep scissors nearby
In case a knot won't come undone.
03Easy things to try
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Blindfold only
No tying at all. Cover their eyes and take your time.
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Wrists together
Tie their wrists in front or above their head.
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Hands to the bed
Tie one wrist to each side of the headboard.
04How to tease
- Kiss everywhere except where they want it most.
- Use ice, a feather or your fingertips.
- Stop right before they come, then start again. That's edging.
- Tell them what you're about to do, then make them wait.
05Afterwards
Untie gently, hold each other and talk about what you liked. This is called aftercare and it matters as much as the play.
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