Edging means getting right to the edge of orgasm, stopping, letting it fade a little, then building again. Do that a few times and the orgasm you finally allow yourself is far more intense. It's also the best way to last longer.
- How hard is it
- Takes practice
- Best for
- Stronger orgasms
- Works
- Alone or together
- Even better with
- Patience
01Why edging works
Every time you back off, arousal stays high and tension keeps building. When you finally let go, all of it releases at once. It also teaches you to recognise the point of no return, which helps anyone who finishes too fast.
02How to edge yourself
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1
Build up slowly
Touch yourself the way you like until you feel close, about eight out of ten.
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2
Stop or slow right down
Take your hand away or switch to very light touch.
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3
Wait and breathe
Let the feeling drop to about five out of ten. Breathe slowly.
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4
Go again
Build back up. Repeat three or four times, then let yourself finish.
03Edging with a partner
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Hands and mouth
Bring them close with oral or your hand, then stop and kiss their thighs.
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During sex
Slow down or hold still when one of you gets close.
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Take control
One person decides when the other may come. Agree on it first.
04Make it hotter
- Make them ask before they finish.
- Use a blindfold so they can't see when you'll stop. See light bondage.
- Tell them how many times you plan to stop them.
- Reward the wait with exactly what they love most.
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