In straight couples, men finish far more often than women. It isn't because women are complicated. It's because most sex is built around penetration, and most women need clitoral touch to come. Fix that and everything changes.
- How hard is it
- Easy once you know
- Best for
- Couples
- The key
- Her clitoris
- Even better with
- Asking her
01Why she doesn't always finish
Penetration alone rarely gives the clitoris enough contact. If sex starts fast and ends when he comes, she never gets the time or the touch she needs.
It's nobody's fault. It's a habit, and habits can change tonight.
02What to change
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1
Slow down at the start
Spend at least fifteen minutes on kissing, touching and oral before intercourse.
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2
Make her clit part of sex
Use your hand, her hand or a toy during penetration, every time.
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3
Pick better positions
Choose positions with clit contact such as cowgirl or missionary with a grind.
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4
Don't stop when he finishes
If she hasn't come, keep going with your mouth, hand or a toy.
03Her first, him second
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Oral first
Make her come with your mouth before you have sex.
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Hands during
Rub her clit while you're inside her.
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Toy together
A small vibrator between you does the work for both of you.
04Talk about it
- Ask what she likes and listen.
- Ask her to show you how she touches herself.
- Check in during sex with a simple "more?" or "like this?"
- Read how to ask for what you want together.
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