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Buying Toys

A sex toy isn't a replacement for anyone. It's a shortcut to feeling good. If you've never bought one, start small and simple. Here's what's worth your money and how to use it alone or together.

How hard is it
Very easy
Best for
Easier orgasms
Works
Alone or together
Even better with
Water based lube

01Best first toys

  • Bullet vibrator

    Small, quiet and cheap. Perfect on the clit and easy to use during sex.

  • Wand vibrator

    Bigger and stronger. Great for deep, rumbly vibration.

  • Cock ring

    Fits around the base of his penis. Keeps him harder and often vibrates for her.

02How to choose

  1. 1

    Start small

    A simple bullet does more than you'd think.

  2. 2

    Pick body safe material

    Choose medical grade silicone. Avoid soft jelly toys that smell of plastic.

  3. 3

    Check the controls

    A few speeds and one button are enough.

  4. 4

    Buy lube too

    Use water based lube with silicone toys.

03How to use a toy together

  • Hold a bullet on her clit during cowgirl or missionary.
  • Let your partner control the speed.
  • Use it on him too. Try it under the head of his penis or behind his balls.
  • Use it for teasing and edging.

04Cleaning and care

Wash toys with warm water and mild soap before and after every use, dry them and store them somewhere clean. If you share a toy or move it between body parts, put a condom on it and change the condom each time.

Anything used for anal play must have a flared base so it can't slip inside.

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