Line drawing of a woman whispering in a man's ear
Starter Phrases

You don't need a script or a porn star voice. A few honest words about what you feel and what you want are enough to make your partner lose it. Here are lines you can use tonight, sorted from mild to filthy.

How hard is it
Easy to start
Best for
Building heat
Works
Before and during
Even better with
A whisper

01Why dirty talk works

Hearing that you're wanted is a huge turn on. Words tell your partner exactly what's working, build tension before anyone is touched, and make sex feel more daring. Start small. The first line is the hardest and it gets easy fast.

02Mild lines to start with

  • "I've been thinking about you all day."
  • "I love the way you touch me."
  • "Don't stop."
  • "That feels so good."
  • "I want you."

03Hotter lines for when things heat up

  • "I want to feel you inside me."
  • "You're making me so wet."
  • "You feel so hard."
  • "Tell me what you want me to do."
  • "I love watching you."

04Filthy lines for when you're both ready

  • "Harder. Just like that."
  • "I want to taste you."
  • "Make me come."
  • "I'm going to make you wait for it."
  • "Tell me how much you want it."

05How to say them without feeling silly

  1. 1

    Describe

    Start by saying what you feel. "That feels amazing" is dirty talk.

  2. 2

    Ask

    Turn it into a question. "Do you like that?" invites them to answer.

  3. 3

    Tell

    Give a simple instruction. "Slower" or "right there" is sexy and useful.

  4. 4

    Go further

    Once you're both comfortable, say what you want to do next.

Want to keep it going when you're apart? Read sexting messages that turn them on. Still nervous? Start with how to talk dirty.

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