A good sext lands in the middle of a dull afternoon and makes them think about you for the rest of the day. It's foreplay that lasts for hours. Here's how to start, what to send and how to keep it safe.
- How hard is it
- Easy
- Best for
- Building anticipation
- Works
- Any time of day
- Even better with
- A slow tease
01How to start sexting
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Open softly
Start with something suggestive, not explicit. "I can't stop thinking about last night."
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Wait for the reply
See how they answer. If they play along, turn it up.
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Get specific
Say what you want to do, or what you want done to you.
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Leave them hanging
End with a promise. "I'll show you later."
02Messages you can send
- "Guess what I'm wearing."
- "I keep thinking about your hands on me."
- "I want you the second you get home."
- "I'm in bed and I wish you were here."
- "Tonight I'm in charge."
03Ways to tease
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The slow build
One message an hour, each a little hotter than the last.
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The memory
Describe something you did together and how it felt.
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The plan
Tell them, in detail, what's going to happen tonight.
04Photos and staying safe
Only send photos to someone you trust, and only if you want to. Leave your face and anything that identifies you out of the picture. Never share someone else's photos, and never pressure anyone to send one.
- Check you're sending to the right person.
- Turn off automatic cloud backup for private photos.
- Delete what you wouldn't want found.
05Keep it going
Sexting is a great way to keep desire alive in a long relationship. Read how to make sex exciting again for more ideas.
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