Most women come from clitoral touch, not from penetration alone. Once you know where the clitoris is and how it likes to be touched, orgasms get easier, stronger and far more reliable, alone or with a partner.
- How hard is it
- Easy
- Best for
- Reliable orgasms
- Works
- Alone or together
- Even better with
- Lube
01Know your clitoris
The part you can see is the small bump at the top of the vulva, under a little hood of skin. That's only the tip. The rest reaches back inside the body on both sides, which is why touch around the area feels good too.
It has thousands of nerve endings and exists for pleasure alone. Direct touch can be too much at first, so start around it.
02How to touch it
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1
Get turned on first
Kissing, fantasy, anything that gets you wet. An aroused clit swells and feels much better.
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2
Add lube
A drop of lube or your own wetness stops friction and makes every stroke smoother.
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3
Start around it
Rub over the hood or beside the clit in slow circles with one or two fingers.
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4
Find your rhythm
Speed up and press a little harder as it builds. When it feels close, don't change anything.
03Strokes to try
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Circles
Small, steady circles over the hood. The classic for a reason.
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Side to side
Quick, light strokes across the clit when you're close.
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Up and down
Slide two fingers along either side, then over the top.
04With a partner
- Put your hand over theirs and show them the speed you like.
- Use positions that give clit contact, like cowgirl, or reach down during any position.
- Ask them to go down on you.
- Bring a small vibrator into bed.
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