Going down on her well comes down to patience. Warm her up, find the clit, settle into a rhythm and stay there. Most men change what they're doing right when it's working. Don't. Keep going and she'll come hard.
- How hard is it
- Easy to learn
- Best for
- Her orgasm
- Who is in charge
- She leads you
- Even better with
- A finger or two
01What she really wants
Slow, wet and steady. The clit has thousands of nerve endings, so start softer than you think and let her tell you when to press harder. Listen to her breathing and watch her hips.
Enthusiasm matters more than technique. If she can tell you love being there, she'll relax, and relaxed is how she comes.
02How to go down on her
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1
Warm her up
Kiss her neck, breasts, stomach and inner thighs. Make her wait for your mouth.
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2
Start broad
Use a flat, soft tongue and long, slow licks over the whole area.
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3
Find the clit
Move up to the small bump at the top. Circle it gently or lick up and down beside it.
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4
Lock in the rhythm
When she moans or pushes into you, keep that exact speed and pressure until she finishes.
03Tongue moves to try
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Slow circles
Small circles around the clit, not directly on top of it at first.
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Up and down
Steady strokes with the flat of your tongue.
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Gentle suction
Close your lips around the clit and suck softly while your tongue moves.
04Extra touches she'll love
- Slide one or two fingers inside and curl them toward her belly to press on her G spot.
- Hold her hips or her hands so she feels held.
- Hum against her. The vibration feels amazing.
- Look up at her now and then.
05After she comes
Her clit will be very sensitive. Go soft, kiss her thighs and wait. If she wants more, she'll pull you back. If she wants you inside her, move up into missionary while she's still shaking.
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