Giving and getting at the same time sounds perfect, and it can be. The trick with 69 is getting comfortable first and accepting that you won't both give your best performance. Treat it as hot, messy foreplay and it's fantastic.
- How hard is it
- Medium
- Best for
- Foreplay
- Who is in charge
- Both of you
- Even better with
- A pillow
01Why 69 is worth doing
You're both being pleasured, both tasting each other and both completely exposed. That shared greed is a big turn on. Even if neither of you finishes this way, you'll both be desperate by the time you stop.
02How to do the 69 position
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1
Choose who's on top
The lighter or more flexible person usually goes on top. Sideways works when you want equal effort.
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2
Line yourselves up
Lie head to toe. Shuffle until both mouths reach comfortably.
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3
Use your hands
Hands do half the work. Hold, stroke and spread while your mouth takes a rest.
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4
Take turns pushing
When one of you gets close, the other can slow down and enjoy it.
03Three ways to lie
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Her on top
She kneels over his face and leans forward. She controls the pressure on her clit.
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Him on top
He kneels over her. Go carefully so he doesn't push too deep.
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Sideways
Both on your sides, heads resting on each other's thighs. The laziest and the easiest.
04Make 69 work better
- Put a pillow under the head of whoever is underneath.
- Agree a tap on the thigh that means ease off.
- Don't aim to finish together. Let one person come first.
- Move on to full sex when you can't wait any longer. Cowgirl is an easy next step.
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