Good oral follows the same rules whoever you're with. Go slower than you want to, keep everything wet, use your hands, and stay with whatever is working. Learn these basics and you'll be good at it for life.
- How hard is it
- Easy to learn
- Best for
- Any partner
- Who is in charge
- The giver
- Even better with
- Feedback
01The four rules of great oral
- Start slow and soft. You can always add pressure, you can't take it back.
- Wet is better. Spit or lube makes every movement feel smoother.
- Hands help. Hold, stroke and press while your mouth works.
- Don't change what's working. A steady rhythm is what brings an orgasm.
02Build it in stages
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1
Tease
Kiss and lick everywhere except the spot they want most. Make them ache for it.
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2
Warm up
Use long, soft strokes with a flat tongue.
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3
Focus
Move to the most sensitive place, the clit for her or the head for him.
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4
Hold steady
Pick a rhythm and keep it. Speed up only when they ask.
03Techniques worth knowing
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Flat tongue
Broad, soft and wet. Best for warming up.
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Pointed tip
Small, precise flicks and circles. Best when they're already close.
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Suction
Gentle sucking with your lips sealed. Add it sparingly.
04Read their body
Faster breathing, hips pushing toward you and hands in your hair all mean keep going. Pulling away or going quiet means ease off or change something.
Asking is sexy. A simple "like this?" or "harder?" gets you there faster than guessing. If talking in bed feels strange, start with how to ask for what you want.
05Put it into practice
For step by step help, read how to give a blow job and how to eat her out.
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