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Dating

You sit across the table watching him chew a burger and wondering why you agreed to this boring drink. The conversation feels like a job interview and you are ready to fake an emergency and go home. You can flip this entire disaster around before the check arrives.

Vibe shift speed
Ten minutes
Best for
Bored daters
Success rate
Very high
Required gear
Pure confidence

01Kill The Interview

Stop asking boring questions about his job or where he grew up. Lean across the table and ask him what he wants to do to you later. His eyes will dilate instantly and the dull dinner party mood will shatter into tiny pieces. For more, read Reclaim Sexual Desire After Stress.

  1. 1

    Lean in

    Bring your face close to his and lower your voice to a whisper.

  2. 2

    Touch him

    Brush your hand against his knee while he speaks.

  3. 3

    Tease hard

    Tell him his shirt looks entirely too easy to rip off.

  4. 4

    Watch eyes

    Look directly at his mouth to signal what you want.

02Change Locations Fast

Staying in one loud bar kills any chance of sexual momentum. You need to get him out of the public eye and into a semi private space where you can actually touch each other without an audience.

  • Propose moving to a darker cocktail lounge down the block.
  • Grab his hand firmly and pull him toward the exit door.
  • Suggest going back to your place for a nightcap drink.

03Use Your Hands

Words are fun but physical contact seals the deal on a hot hookup. Break the touch barrier early and often so your bodies get used to the friction before you reach the bedroom door.

04Build The Tension

Make him sweat by promising pleasure and then making him wait for it. Anticipation makes the eventual touching ten times more intense for both of you.

  1. 1

    Whisper secrets

    Tell him exactly how wet you are getting right now.

  2. 2

    Deny access

    Pull away with a smirk when he tries to kiss you too soon.

  3. 3

    Drive him crazy

    Grind your hips against his thigh in the cab ride home.

  4. 4

    Take control

    Push him against your hallway wall the second you enter.

05Seal The Deal

Once you cross the threshold into private space abandon all politeness. Pounce on him immediately and show him you mean business.

  • Rip his clothes off with zero hesitation.
  • Pin his wrists above his head to show dominance.
  • Ride him hard until you both scream.

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