You want him to move his hand three inches to the left, but you do not want to kill the mood. Giving feedback in bed takes finesse so he feels like a god instead of a failure. Here is how to speak up and get what you want.
- Mood
- Playful
- Goal
- Better sex
- Tone
- Sexy
- Result
- Climax
01Start With Praise
Your man has fragile plumbing when it comes to his sexual pride. If you stop and correct him like a driving instructor he will freeze up and lose his hardon. Start by telling him what he is doing right before you ask for a change. Praise gets you so much further than criticism ever will. For more, read How to Talk Dirty Without Cringing.
- Tell him how hot he looks when he touches you in your favorite spot.
- Moan louder when he hits the right rhythm so he knows to stay there.
- Stroke his hair and tell him you love when he does that exact thing.
02Use Your Hands
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Put your hand
Place your hand over his hand to show him the exact pressure you crave.
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2
Move his hips
Press your hips against his to slow him down or speed him up without talking.
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Keep moving
Keep your body grinding against him so he stays focused on your pleasure.
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Whisper dirty
Tell him you want it faster right into his ear while you touch him.
Nonverbal cues are sexy as hell and bypass his brain completely. He does not need a lecture when he can feel your body reacting to his touch. Show him what feels good with your own hands right on his body.
03Talk Dirty
Dirty talk is the easiest way to give instructions without sounding like a boss. Turn your requests into naughty commands that sound hot instead of clinical. He will get turned on just hearing what you want him to do to your wet pussy.
04Timing Matters
- Never give a critique right after you finish when he is feeling vulnerable.
- Bring up new ideas in the kitchen or the car when clothes are still on.
- Praise his performance the next morning to build his confidence.
Save the big technique talks for outside the bedroom when neither of you is naked. If you wait until the middle of sex to complain about his routine he will take it the wrong way. Keep the bedroom for pleasure and save the chats for later.
05Keep It Fun
Sex is supposed to feel good for both of you so do not treat it like a chore. Laugh when things get awkward and try again with a smile on your face. A playful attitude keeps the bedroom hot and keeps him eager to please you.
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