He sits, you climb into his lap, wrap your legs around his back and sink down. In the lotus you're chest to chest and eye to eye, rocking instead of thrusting. It's slow, it's deep, and it's as close as two people can get.
- How hard is it
- Medium
- Best for
- Deep connection
- Who is in charge
- Both of you
- Even better with
- A firm cushion
01Why the lotus feels so intense
He's as deep as he can go and barely moving. All the feeling comes from small circles of your hips, the pressure on your clit and the fact that you can't look away from each other.
Because it's slow, it's a brilliant position for lasting longer and for coming together.
02How to get into the lotus position
-
1
Sit him down
He sits cross legged on the bed or floor, with his back against the headboard or a wall if he needs support.
-
2
Climb into his lap
Face him, kneel over his lap and lower yourself onto him.
-
3
Wrap your legs around him
Cross your ankles behind his back and put your arms around his neck. He holds your lower back or your ass.
-
4
Rock and grind
Rock your hips forward and back in slow circles. He pulls you in on each one.
03Easier ways to do it
-
On a cushion
He sits on a firm cushion to lift his hips. Much kinder on his legs.
-
Legs out
He stretches his legs out straight instead of crossing them.
-
On a chair
Do the same thing on a sturdy chair. That's chair sex, and it's easier on everyone.
04Make the lotus hotter
- Breathe together. Match your breath to his and slow everything down.
- Press your foreheads together and keep your eyes open.
- Kiss slowly and deeply while you rock.
- Stop completely for a few seconds right before you come, then start again.
Where to go next
Trusted sources
