You want to tell him exactly how hard you want him inside you, but your throat tightens up and silence wins. Shyness kills great sex, and keeping your fantasies locked in your head cheats both of you out of a hotter climax.
- Time it takes
- Ten minutes
- Best for
- Shy partners
- Skill level
- Beginner
- Result
- Loud orgasms
01Why You Freeze
Your brain loves to overthink every single word before it leaves your lips. You worry you sound silly or awkward when you try to use dirty words. That fear of sounding fake stops you from saying the exact filth that turns him on. Strip away the pressure to sound like a porn star and just speak your truth. For more, read How to Lower Your Voice for Better Tone.
- Fear of judgment makes your mouth dry up during sex.
- You compare your voice to dirty movies instead of your own reality.
- Silence feels safe until you realize it makes sex boring.
02Start Small
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Whisper it
Say one simple naughty word right against his ear in the dark.
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2
Name body parts
Swap out polite words for hard ones like cock and pussy.
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Describe actions
Tell him you love how he feels inside your wet heat right now.
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Praise him
Tell him he is doing a great job making you feel so good.
Tiny steps build big confidence over time. You do not need to deliver a dirty monologue on your first try. Just drop one hot word and watch how fast he reacts.
03Kill The Shame
Society tells women to be quiet and polite in the bedroom. Throw those stupid rules straight out the window where they belong. He wants you vocal and he wants to know he makes you wet. Speaking your mind is the sexiest thing you can do for your sex life.
04Use Solo Time
Practice talking dirty when you are completely alone with your vibrator. Say what you want out loud to your bedroom walls until the words feel natural on your tongue. If you can say it to yourself you can say it to him.
- Master your tone while touching yourself without any outside pressure.
- Test out different dirty phrases to see which ones turn you on most.
- Build muscle memory in your vocal cords for bedroom talk.
05Own The Moment
Next time you climb on top of him take a deep breath and tell him what you need. Ask him to stroke you harder or tell him how much you love his big cock. Watch his eyes dilate when he hears you take control with your voice.
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