You press a high speed motor against your clit and the magic just dies. Instead of an earth shattering climax you get total numbness and a sore spot. You need the right angles and pressure to make sex toys work for you.
- Best toys
- Silicone wands
- Main trick
- Angled pressure
- Avoid
- Direct heavy slamming
- Result
- Huge orgasms
01Why Direct Pressure Fails
Your clitoris has thousands of nerve endings packed into a tiny space. Blasting that bundle with high speed vibrations on maximum power overwhelms the nerves instantly. The tissue goes numb and you lose all the good feelings. You need finesse instead of brute force to get off. For more, read Mastering Sequential Orgasms Without The Drop.
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Start Low
Begin on the lowest setting to warm up the nerves.
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Use Lube
Slather on silicone lube to stop friction burn.
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Tilt The Toy
Press the flat edge rather than the hard tip against your skin.
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Breathe In
Relax your pelvic floor so the sensations sink deep inside.
02Missionary With A Twist
Missionary puts him right on top of you which leaves plenty of room for a slim bullet toy. He enters you while you slip the toy right into the gap between your bodies. The weight of his pelvis holds the toy in place against your sensitive spot without any heavy pushing from your hands.
- Angle the base of the toy upward so it rests directly against your clitoris.
- Ask him to grind his pelvic bone slowly against your pubic mound.
- Change the vibration pattern as he moves to match his rhythm.
03Cowgirl Control
You sit astride his hips and take total control of every single thrust. Place a small bullet vibrator between you before you slide down onto him. Your body weight lets you micro adjust the pressure so you never press too hard.
04Spoonful Of Pleasure
Spoon position keeps things lazy and incredibly intimate on a lazy Sunday morning. He spoons his front against your back with both of you lying on your sides. You can easily reach down with one hand to hold a wand against your clit while he thrusts slowly.
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Curl Up
Pull your knees up toward your chest to open your hips.
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Rest Your Arm
Let your upper arm rest comfortably across your hip.
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Position The Wand
Press the rounded head softly against the top of your vulva.
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Ride The Wave
Let his slow thrusts build the friction while the motor hums.
05Standing Against The Wall
Standing sex adds gravity and friction to the mix for a wild rush of heat. He lifts you slightly or pushes you gently against a bedroom wall. Slip a small waterproof bullet between you both as he holds you tight.
- Wrap your legs tightly around his waist to lock your bodies together.
- Press the toy against your clit using the pressure of your pelvic bones.
- Communicate loudly about what feels good as the intensity builds up.
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