You want to whisper filthy things in his ear but your throat locks up the second he touches you. Silence kills the mood when you desperately want to talk dirty and take control. Practice alone in front of the mirror tonight so you can shatter that nervous habit.
- Time it takes
- Ten minutes
- Best for
- Shy beginners
- Location
- Bathroom mirror
- Result
- Total confidence
01Face Your Reflection
Strip down and stand right in front of your bathroom mirror. Look yourself dead in the eye and say your favorite dirty word out loud. It feels weird at first because you are not used to hearing your own sexual voice in the open. Push past the awkward giggles until your tone sounds steady and completely natural. For more, read Morning After Sexts That Linger All Day.
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Lock Eyes
Stare at your own reflection without looking away.
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Breathe Low
Take deep belly breaths to drop your vocal pitch.
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Say It
Speak a simple dirty word with a straight face.
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Repeat
Say it three times until your voice sounds firm.
02Drop Your Pitch
High pitched nervous talking ruins sexy momentum fast. You need to speak from your chest instead of your throat to sound dominant and in charge. Lower your voice until it rumbles just a bit when you talk to yourself. He will melt the second he hears that sultry tone drop right next to his ear.
- Chest resonance makes your words sound instantly heavier and more seductive.
- Speaking slower forces him to hang on every single filthy syllable you say.
- Low tones signal total control over the sexual situation from the very start.
03Describe Your Body
Look at your naked body in the glass and praise yourself out loud. Tell your reflection how wet you are and how good your skin feels right now. If you cannot appreciate your own body in private you will struggle to talk about it during sex. Get comfortable hearing yourself narrate your own arousal.
04Give Hard Orders
Dirty talk is not just about descriptions because it is also about pure power. Practice commanding an empty room like he is standing right there waiting for instructions. Tell him to get on his knees or tell him he cannot touch you yet. Bossing your mirror around builds the exact muscle memory you need for the bedroom.
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Point Finger
Point your finger at your reflection like you are giving an order.
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Use Commands
Say stay right there and do not move a muscle.
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Check Tone
Make sure your voice sounds bossy and entirely sure of itself.
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Smile After
Laugh it off if you stumble and start the command again.
05Take It to Bed
You have put in the mirror time and now your vocal cords know the drill. Start small tonight by whispering one dirty phrase right when he enters you. Watch his eyes dilate because hearing you talk dirty takes his pleasure to a totally new level. Keep your breathing steady and let your voice do the heavy lifting.
- Start with simple phrases before moving to complex commands in bed.
- Watch his facial expression to know which words turn him on the most.
- Consent always comes first so check in if you try something totally new.
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