You are riding him hard and fast, and you want to tell him exactly how good it feels. If you whisper like a shy mouse while he is grunting like a freight train, the vibe dies instantly. Matching his energy means using your voice to match the exact volume and rhythm of your fucking.
- Best for
- Loud lovers
- Skill level
- Intermediate
- Body part
- Voicebox
- Result
- Louder orgasms
01Listen To The Grunts
Your lover gives you a massive blueprint for what he wants every time he makes a sound. If he is breathing heavy and quiet, you do not need to scream at the top of your lungs. Pay attention to the pitch of his sighs and the speed of his inhales. When you match his noise level, you prove you are completely locked into the exact same moment. For more, read Slow Build Whispers Before Going to Sleep.
- Soft whimpers mean you should lean in close and whisper dirty secrets right into his wet ear.
- Deep chest groans mean you can drop your voice an octave and talk about how heavy he feels inside you.
- Heavy panting tells you to speed up your breathing and let out breathless little gasps that echo his pace.
02Control Your Volume
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Track the room
Listen to the ambient noise and the sound of skin slapping skin before you say a single dirty word.
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Match the pitch
If his voice goes high with pleasure, raise your tone to meet him right there in the heat.
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Pump it up
As you both get closer to the edge, let your voice grow louder and bolder with every hard thrust.
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Drop to a growl
Right before you both come, sink your voice into a deep whisper that makes his skin prickle with hot goosebumps.
03Speak Over His Pace
Good dirty talk is a physical percussion instrument that pounds along with your bodies. If he moves slow and deep, drag your words out so every syllable drips with heavy lust. When he speeds up into a frantic rhythm, chop your words into fast and dirty demands. He needs to hear you bark out short commands that match his frantic thrusts.
- Say yes daddy in time with his deepest thrusts so the words hit him like physical blows.
- Keep your sentences short when you are moving fast so you do not run out of breath while riding him.
- Use long drawn out moans when you are taking it slow and letting the stretch feel incredible.
04Fix The Mismatch
We have all been there when one partner yells like a porn star and the other stays dead silent. That awkward gap kills your horniness and makes you feel self conscious in the worst way. Fix it by gently grabbing his chin and pulling him close so he hears your breath. Tell him you want to hear his voice and watch how fast he starts growling back at you.
05Own Your Voice
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Drop the shame
Your natural voice sounds incredible when you are soaking wet and begging for more.
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Practice alone
Say filthy things out loud in an empty room until your own voice turns you on.
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Push the limits
Say something slightly too loud just to test how much he loves hearing you take control.
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Breathe right
Take deep breaths from your stomach so your voice has real power behind every dirty demand.
When you finally own the power of your vocal cords in the bedroom, sex changes forever. He will not just want your body, he will crave the sound of your voice telling him how much you love his dick. Match his energy, speak his language, and ride that noise all the way to a screaming finish.
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